This makes it sound like it is an Ego problem… sorry… but if you are upset because you have to choose a slower bot to follow and that makes you feel bad because “I should be faster” or whatever, then I fail to see how a lighter bot will solve anything… as has been mentioned, heavier riders will still overtake you with less effort.
I guess it is worth an experiment though, maybe @James_Zwift at ZHQ will oblige?